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MEN IN SKIRT 2012: Gabrielle Lys. May 17, 2013.
MEN IN SKIRT 2012:
Gabrielle Lys. May 17, 2013.


Soldier of Peace: European United States Forces. Cap and jacket Merxx, skirt and glasses, boots in Gortex. Gabrielle Lys August 2006.
Soldier of Peace:
European United States Forces. Cap and jacket Merxx, skirt and glasses, boots in Gortex.
Gabrielle Lys August 2006.


Roman fashion: What we do in our life resounds in eternity. [Ridley Scott - Gladiator movie] When antiquity influences the fashion of the future... The man carries a cloak with cap in flax on a tunic out of cotton with leggings and light ankle boots. Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.
Roman fashion:
"What we do in our life resounds in eternity."
[Ridley Scott - "Gladiator" movie]
When antiquity influences the fashion of the future... The man carries a cloak with cap in flax on a tunic out of cotton with leggings and light ankle boots.
Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.


NEW BOY GEORGE : Asymmetric whipcord jacket in 2 layers with zippers. Velvet Hat. Gabrielle Lys November 19, 2013.
NEW BOY GEORGE :
Asymmetric whipcord jacket in 2 layers with zippers. Velvet Hat.
Gabrielle Lys
November 19, 2013.



To dare the skirt, it is to develop a beautiful interiority.

"If I differ from you, far from injuring you, I increase you." [ Saint-Exupéry ]

dot  I found this very beautiful interview of Saverio Tomasella which I publish here with the agreement of the author. It can be useful to each one among you who write to me not to dare the skirt.
Gabrielle Lys
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Interview of Saverio Tomasella. Psychoanalyst and author "to make peace with oneself" - (Eyrolles edition)


dot  Which difficulties meet people who must assume a "difference"?

The fields of the differences is infinite. One can be too small, too large, too thin, too large. But also eccentric, marginal, night-bird, or to like to wear the skirt... From the point of view of the psychological mechanisms, one can say that the child who arrives at the world has a need inconcient to be recognized by his environment. Subjected to the social standards of a group (his family, his neighbors, the school), he will do everything unconsciously, to adhere to the values of this group.


dot  What happen if a human being is discovered artist in a family where they hate that, or is manual in a intellectual family ?

he will not feel with the height of this request of harmonization and will live a conflict. From there, two scénarii are possible. Maybe, he meets a person (a grandmother, a friend, a teacher...) who carries it, which say to him "would be what you are". Then there, it is practically gained. In spite of the mockeries or comments, he will be able to be based on this word of the other. Maybe, he does not meet a support...


dot  But what does it occur if, the most frequent case, he does not cross this support on his road?

A conflict between the ideal of the group and his reality (what he is able to bring) will settle in him. This conflict causes suffering. While growing, this faintness can evolve in two manners. Either it will push him to saying "Dash it!", to become a little rebellious or creative. we find a lot of people engaged in this category: trade unionists, artists, politicians. Maybe, he will induce a fold on oneself which can lead to despair or depression...


dot  Are there common springs to the people who voluntarily choose a certain marginality?

We observe recurring diagrams. In closing families (rigid vestimentary, professional, of behavior codes), children feel with narrow, not recognized. Some will react by making a marginal choice. All rather than to conform to the family model. They will be tramp rather than insurance agent, travelling acrobat rather than doctor, or completely eccentric rather than assembled collet. It is a choice of survival which can save them and become an asset. But contrary, others turn over against them the cruelty of the system. Confronted with a devaluing language, they will become this least that nothing to not repudiate the system. The "difference" is then in the self-destruction or the negation of oneself. Painful.


dot  Can Prear which process the difference become a richness?

In a general way, crossed of suffering, small or large, makes mature, makes more human. Different, I must face to mockeries, with the rejection, with the comments... My heart is obliged to be reinforced. I will more quickly become myself rather than on the others. It is a favorable ground to the emergence of a very beautiful interiority which, at the adulthood, will hatch. In the form of a particularly subtle way to like the life, or to like the others, or to approach work, the private life or to express an art; a many painters, singers, novelists result from this vein. It is very important to know that the difference is a chance. The pain which results from this makes it possible to better reach the bottom of its heart.


dot  Which is the council to give to except standards people so that they live their marginality as well as possible?

Seek with deepest of you than there is of more human and express it humanly. The others will be humanized with your contact. Then the difference does not seem one obstacle any more. There is not difference that cannot be assumed and respected. Means of arriving there? That depends on the way of life but impossible to make this course alone. The human being needs another human being to structure himself. This other can be a friend, a love, a person of resource, a spiritual step. Or a therapeutist.


The five rules of an accomplished interiority:

1) To demolish glance of the others.

2) To give value to its own feelings ("what I feel, it is valid, even if it is not in conformity")

3) To transform its resentments into personal thoughts (if I smell myself badly, to manage to express it in "I" rather than to leave himself with "my colleague is bitch")

4) To touch his own loneliness ("I cannot be well with the others if I do not accept my loneliness")

5) To enter into contact with different people ("more I riches my pallet, more I accept my difference")



The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden book and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further.
Gabrielle Lys

The collar of feathers of the shaman makes talk the earth... summer look: Blouse of custumized training, bracelets blue-ivoir, skirt in military fabric and sandals for man. Gabrielle Lys July 2006.
The collar of feathers of the shaman
makes talk "the earth"... summer look: Blouse of custumized training, bracelets blue-ivoir, skirt in military fabric and sandals for man. Gabrielle Lys July 2006.


Red Hair: Young man with red hair in a Gothic party of PILGRIMAGE at Brussels... Coat in the Old Empire style. Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.
Red Hair:
Young man with red hair in a Gothic party of PILGRIMAGE at Brussels... Coat in the Old Empire style.
Gabrielle Lys. July 2007.


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