"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest feais that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous ? Actually, who are you not to be ? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."
[Inauguration Speech of Nelson Mandela, 1994. The sentence “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” is from Marianne Williamson.]
The creator is afraid to die before to have very given of him. However he keeps the faith. To create is to change reality by a more beautiful reality. Then he becomes for a fraction of time the equal one to God. long Dress with broad cap.
Gabrielle Loodts. September 2007.
Official reception of stars:
The fashion of the cubism invades the official receptions of stars. Elton John with the handing-over of the "music awards" prices.
Gabrielle Loodts. Special Cubism Collection. February 2007.
"Gabrielle reduced on your heart this revelation which declares veracious the former messages and which is used as guide and happy annonce"
The angel has an orange hair and skirt with wheels into 4 thickness on a curved jacket tailor. He wears the Boots of Archange.
Gabrielle Loodts. October 18, 2008.
On board his jeep, he crosses the deserts of Australia to the research of the gold seam. Sweat out of cotton, skirt in flax with pocket for dagger, boots and hat out of leather, scarf in flax, girdles out of leather with pocket for gourd. Gabrielle Loodts February 2006.
look, fashion and regard of oneself.
This article highlights the interaction that there exists between the regard of oneself and importance attached to appearance. Major elements to explain the return of the skirt in male wardrobe.
Regard of oneself.
Regard of oneself, one of the most fundamental dimensions of our personality. It is a discrete and complex phenomenon of which we are not always aware. The expression "Regard of oneself" comes from Latin oestimare, "to evaluate", whose significance is double: at the same time "to determine the value" and "to have an opinion on". The regard of oneself is thus how we see ourself and if we like or not what we see. This glance-judgement which we carry on ourself is important for our psychological balance. When it is positive, it makes it possible to act effectively, to smell ourself well in our skin, to face to the difficulties of the existence. But when it is negative, it generates a number of sufferings and nuisances which come to disturb our life.
The three pillars of the regard of oneself.
To have self-confidence, to be sure of oneself, to be happy with oneself. The terms and the expressions employed in the language to indicate the regard of oneself are large. In fact, each one of them refers to the one of its multiple aspects. Actually, the regard of oneself rests on three "ingredients": Self-confidence, the vision of oneself, the self-love. The good proportioning of each one of these three components is essential with obtaining a harmonious regard of oneself.
It is the most important element. To like does not suffer any condition: we like ourself in spite of our defects, our limits, the failures and the reverses. Simply because a small interior voice says to us that we are worthy of love and respect. This "unconditional" self-love does not depend on our performances. It explains why we can resist to the adversity and to rebuild ourself after a failure. It prevents neither the suffering nor the doubt in the event of difficulties, but it protects from despair.
The self-love depends mainly on the love that our family given to us when we were child and of "emotional foods" which were given to us. The deficiencies of regard of oneself which take their source on this level are undoubtedly most difficult to catch up with. we finds them in what the psychiatrists call "the personality disorders", i.e. at subjects of which manner of being with others growth them to conflicts or failures.
To like oneself is well the base of the regard of oneself, its major component and close friend. However, it is never easy to distinguish at a person, beyond her social mask, the exact degree of the like oneself.
2. The vision of oneself.
It is the glance which we carry on ourself. This evaluation, founded or not, that we make about our qualities and defects, is the second pillar of the regard of oneself. It is not a question of self-knowledge; but the conviction that we have to be carrying qualities or defects, potentialities or limitations. Subjectivity thus holds the beautiful role; its observation is difficult, and its comprehension is delicate. This is why, a complexed person - whose regard of oneself is often low - will leave often perplexed the persons which do not perceive the defects of which it is believed reached.
Positive, the vision of oneself is an interior force which enables us to wait our hour in spite of the adversity. In other cases, a limited vision of oneself will push the subject with the dependence of others: we can establish satisfactory relations with others, but we limit oneself to the role of follower, we passe only on ways already explored by others. There is evil to build and bring to a successful conclusion personal projects.
The self-confidence applies especially to our acts. To be trustful, it is to think that we are able to act in an adequate way in important situations. Contrary to the self-love and, especially, to the vision of oneself, the self-confidence is not very difficult to identify. It is enough for that to regularly attend a person, to observe how she behaves in new or unforeseen situations, when there is a stake, or if she is subjected to difficulties in the realization of what she undertook. The self-confidence can thus seem less fundamental than the self-love or the vision of oneself, of which it would be a consequence. It is partly true, but its role seems to us paramount insofar as the regard of oneself needs acts to be maintained or developed: small successes each day are necessary to our psychological balance, just like food and oxygen is necessary to our body. Not to fear the unknown or the adversity testifies to a good degree of self-confidence.
The balance of the regard of oneself.
These three components of the regard of oneself generally maintain the bonds of interdependence: the self-love (to respect ourself what it occurs, to listen our needs and our aspirations) incontestably facilitates a positive vision of oneself (to believe in our capacities, to project ourself in the future) which, in its turn, the self-confidence influences favorably (to act without excessive fear of the failure and judgement of others). The regard of oneself is not given once for all. It is a mobile dimension of our personality. More or less high, more or less stable, it needs to be regularly fed.
Mirror, my beautiful mirror...
The mirror is always in our daily environment: bathrooms and halls of our residences, stores, halls of building, rooms of gymnastics, rear view mirrors of our cars... Our image to us is reflected tens of time per day. It was not always as follows. In fact, until the 17th century, the mirrors were very rare. The gallery of the Ices of the castle of Versailles was at the time an exceptional sign of power and richness. Correctly likely to translate the extraordinary regard of oneself of the king Louis XIV. But the democratization of the mirror dates only from the 19th century. Since, the mirror became to us familiar and intimate. Which is the role of this invading presence of our image, to which it is added photograph and movies, in the increasing pressures on the image of the body ? This one is increasingly present in publicity: perfumes, beauty products, fashion. As for the women, but with about thirty years of delay, men are subjected to a bombardment of images of ideal bodies on the display panels, the magazines, televised publicities.
"Do not deplore any more misery of your life but steal a good mirror. It will help you the morning to invent some shining action at your true measurement."
Look, fashion and estimate oneself.
Appearances influence much the regard of oneself. They make that we feel developed or devalued. Our clothing is not only any more used to protect us from the cold or hiding our nudity. How do you feel after having bought a beautiful clothing, which suits you to charm ? Undoubtedly you smell yourselves well... Your regard of oneself was some increased. The image that you have of yourself will be doped.
For those which like the fashion, the game consists in supervising the tendencies and the windows in order to be always in the wind, the objective is to carry what will go, but before everyone, and especially stop to carry it when everyone followed... The fashion, especially if we preceded it, is a means of increasing our regard of oneself. The objective is to dissociate others, while being the first to adopt new ways of dressing ourself. Thus developed by their statute of pioneers, they will be ready to still face the glances and critics of people with the old style. For others, to follow the fashion will be a way of not decreasing its regard of oneself. The motivation is not a profit of regard of oneself, but the avoidance of a loss. They adopt a fashion only when it spreads, in order to not be judged negatively on an obsolete appearance. Of course, at the stage where "everyone starts to start to it", the innovators for a long time gave up the fashion in question: it would not bring anything any more to their regard oneself.
In the Western countries, the way simplest and fastest to improve its image, it is often to buy clothing. Would the fashion exist if people did not have problems of regard of oneself? How to differently explain the success of the "claws", which consists to pay a clothing more expensive if it has the logo in the wind.
"L'estime de soi : S'aimer pour mieux vivre avec les autres".
Christophe André et François Lelord, Edition Odile Jacob.
The man in red: fushia boots and girdles out of deer, black leggings dim-up, red skirt adit by pull knobs, matched tee-shirt and wind-breaker. Fushia eye shadow. Gabrielle Loodts 2005.
BLACK HAIR, RED DRESS:
Party dress of the golden age of the seam built around the corset in the style of Christian Dior in 1947. Make-up chamanic.
Self-portrait. Gabrielle Loodts.
May 1, 2008.
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Longggg legs.... love skirts and heels and ...and.. and..
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Bonjour à tous les hommes qui sont convaincu que le port de la jupe, bas collants, sous vêtements et même chaussures à talons ne devraient pas être uniquement l'apanage royal de la gente féminine. La plupart des femmes et jeunes filles veulent laisser de coté leur féminité en se grimant en mecs (jean blouson Caterpillar et casquette). Pourquoi nous les hommes ne ferions nous pas pareil ? Notre part naturelle de féminité (même le plus poilu des bucherons macho endurcis par le froids et l'ermitage recevant le besoin de se laver à chaque changement de saison) produit de la progestérone (hormone féminine). Mais comme il produit aussi de la testostérone en plus grande quantité ses caractères masculins sont prépondérants. Même si elle est infime, pourquoi ne nous autoriserait-elle pas à puiser dans la garde robe de notre sœur, amie, épouse ou de notre mère ? Nous vivons une époque ou le poil superflu féminin et masculin est pourchassé a coup de rasoir et d'épilation. L'homme moderne passe autant de temps en institut de beauté et bien être que ces dames.
Le sous vêtement Marcel a fait un saut ...du kangourou ... au string ficelle..au jockstrap ! J'ai la cinquantaine et ayant porté depuis plusieurs années des bas de contention été comme hiver, jour et nuit, je m'étais résigné a me faire épiler les jambes pour limiter les échauffements.
Je me contente aujourd'hui de porter des bas et collants féminins de 15 a 20 deniers jour et nuit pour maintenir une température constante sur mes jambes !
Le pire (ou le meilleur) est que je me suis non seulement habitué au port de ces bas, mais j'y ai pris goût jusqu'au point ou mon angiologue m'avait fortement conseillé de porter des chaussures compensées à talon haut afin que le mollet remonte et favorisant le retour veineux (circulation du sang des jambes vers le cœur). J'ai essayé les chaussures compensées en pharmacie mais 5cm ce n'était pas suffisant! Finalement je porte à la maison depuis plusieurs années des escarpins femme de 13cm de haut et la santé de mes jambes ne s'est jamais aussi bien portée! Mon épouse a accepté cette fatalité et j'ai l'impression de revivre car je ne souhaite à personne de porter en permanence des bas de contention le jour et de bas anti thrombose la nuit ! Un carcan !! Depuis que je porte ces attributs féminins, ma conception des choses a évoluée. Mon coté féminin s'est affirmé sans être efféminé mais j'éprouve de plus en plus le besoin d'aller plus loin dans le vestimentaire et de porter jupes, robes, body et tout autres habits interdits aux hommes !
Tout ce que je souhaite maintenant c'est que les mentalités changent, que les casseurs de travelo et de toutes personnes différentes d'eux ne soient plus qu'une espèce éteinte et enfin qu'un jour je puisse sortir et me montrer à mon aise en public. J'ai envie d'exprimer librement et ouvertement ma féminité ! Alors mesdames vous n'aurez plus le monopole de la féminité ! Voila je tire mon chapeau a ceux qui ont passé le pas ... de leur porte et ... je les envie !!!
Bises à tous et bon courage.
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