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[My sweet prince - Placebo] Jacket of Black Pearl and Skirt of the Warrior. Gabrielle Loodts. Marsh 20 2011. PERFECT LOOK: He is 16 years old and plays to be a bishonen. Hair and blue boots. Wool Skirt and sweater without handles matched on a shirt with short handles. Gabrielle Loodts. September 2007. MY NEXT LIFE: "But if you don't change your situation Then you'll die. Don't die. Please don't die..." [Commercial for Levi - Placebo] Gabrielle since the beginning, and without scars, will create the fashion of the mauve hair and the cow-boy hats. Gabrielle Loodts. August 15th, 2009. The Communist: In 2010, the climatic changes and the oil crisis give to the style of the day public transport and equitable division of the resources. Wild capitalism is abandoned with the profit of a Communism concerned by the environment. In New York, the fashion is with the uniforms of the old USSR. Young boy in Central Park: Gabrielle Loodts boots, jacket, divided skirt and cap out of cotton and gray color. Rustic buttons ivoir color. Gabrielle Loodts. December 2006. Us, Builders of culture. Roles related to the sex.   It is generally believed that the properties of the character which define our personality rise naturally from the biological sex. Our society allots to male or female having been born specific and arbitrary significances, i.e. qualities, roles, particular identities to each sex. Our society prescribes social roles related to the sex which are models to be obligatorily followed. These roles related to the sex are relative at the same time to psychological characteristics, behaviors, activities which one allots to the male sex or rather to the female sex and which are supposed being "naturally" specific to one or the other sex. The psychologist Sandra Bem worked out an inventory of the roles related to the sex. Here some examples of male roles: to be ambitious, energetic, to make decisions easily, to behave as a leader... and female roles: to be soft, affectionate, sensitive to the needs for the others, to love the children... The stereotypes remain from generation to generation.   The perception of the roles related to the sex and its degree of adhesion are very early in the development of the little child. Throughout his socialization, the child and after the teenager will work out an identity in adequacy with the roles and the stereotypes assigned with his group of sex. This "sexual" identity induced conduits in conformity with these roles. Thus, the loop is buckled and the cycle can start again... Dichotomy masculine - female.   The masculine and the female one are in fact sociocultural constructions but it is difficult to perceive it. In our perception, there is a quite visible correspondence between the sexual membership and the interest which one can carry to certain things like the Skirts, merry colors or the use of make-up for example. As if it were in the "nature of the things". Thus, a real cleavage man - woman, a dichotomy made between masculine and female is made up and compresses, restricts all the potential varieties in the manner to be human. Early childhood.   As of the early childhood, one gives weapons out of toys or small cars at the little boy. The small girl finds herself with a headstock and a cradle to play at the mom. The separation of the sexes is engraved forever in them, in their unconscious. Once adult, their vision of the others and themselves will remain conditioned by this dichotomy.   Our individuality with deep roots which escape to us and exceed us because they are foreign for us: others cultivated them for us, without our knowledge. Since most tender childhood, values are inculcated to us, and their sexual specificity is extremely marked. Family, first yoke.   The model even of the family holds a paramount place within the infantile identification: this first image of the male and female roles is determining for the child, and it will obviously tend to reproduce them. The integration of the model of the couple as normalizes social relations man-woman is dominant: the family is carrying incredibly strong diagrams of representations of the male and female roles. Today one knows thaht the imitation of the parents in the psychological development of a child is important. Doll's tea party against small soldiers.   The period of the festivals is revealing specialization of the toys. Since the blue and pink pages of the catalogues, to the shelves of the stores, one quickly realizes of the distribution of the plays in two exclusive categories. One invites girls to make like mom: doll's tea parties, headstocks predestining them with their future role of mother, domestic machines in reduction, panoplies of nurse, air-hostess, boxes of make-up... For boys, it is not a question to be like dad but more virile than dad. The plays of boy are related to the war, with the discovery, the adventure, the competition, the action, aggressiveness, the domination by the force or technical... All these values are conveyed by our society. Daily bludgeoning.   The media are at the origin of many commonplaces from which the individuals build themselves. Between the television, the radio, or even the publicities placarded in the streets, it is an image of the male and female stereotypes which anchors each time a little more. We would to question us on the socially built yokes which inhibit us and slow down us in the expression of our-self. If it is admitted that the two halves of the world population undergo a different training, how to imagine that each one can wear clothing which he likes without passing by a déconstruction of these social yokes? We do not accept this dictatorship of the gender, nor do not want a single gender, but that each person builds himself(herself) as he(she)wishes. The gender.   The term "gender" was recently recognized like defining the individual, social and legal statute of a person, independently of his biological sex. Many people confuse the sex with the gender. The sex is of order biological whereas the gender is of psychosocial nature. Therefore, biology cannot dictate the gender or the personality of an individual. The gender is cultural and social. It is what one culturally allots to female or the masculine which gives the denomination of female gender or male gender to a person. The cultural one is not very suited to this kind of work. Moreover, a woman is not only female and a man is not only male. At each individual, femininity cohabits more or less with the masculinity. The levels of masculinity and femininity vary, more or less fluctuate in the course of time of each one of us according to the events, the feelings, the emotions which we live. If the gender of a person were not a data culturally related to the biological sex of the person, we would be surprised by the fluctuation of certain identities. Evolution in the pain.   The identity of gender which is not in conformity with our biologically sex is not pathological. But it is expressed in a painful way just because of the narrowness and the poverty of the possible identities in this society. Because of this "failure" which ratified persistent thinks and behaviors, the evolution is done in the pain. As long as we will not have redefined the behavior in terms of "human", rather than male or female, we will remain locked up in a dance of death. It was noticed that many people who became agitated, sick or unbalanced were lost in fact in this dichotomy masculine-female. The psychologists observed that these people tended to go from the one to the other rather than to test an alternative between the two. Thus, the transvestites are judicious duty always to regard themselves as "men", but abnormal men, not integrated or even in perverse fetishists. The transsexuals, them, must often completely disavow their male side and become a stereotype of a woman to be able to be integrated in the society. We can strongly doubt that these forms of socialization can lead to personal blooming and happiness. Builders of culture.   Our culture imposes the Dichotomy masculine - female of the gender to us by holding account of the biological sex. Our culture prevents us from embracing our diversity as something of naturalness - something which should be celebrated. I believe that the true solution with our dilemma it is all to include - not to do a dichotomy between masculine and female. We know, at the bottom of our heart, which we are much more than what our culture dictates to us. We can be able to reject these restrictions under all their forms, if we have a vision which transcends them, if we believe that we must go beyond. We must be conscious that each one of us, in all the measurement of its means, are Builders of culture and that it is while being ourselves that we will be able to do the best in this task - and not while being what the culture awaits from us. Since diversity which is in us is not any more in situation of contradiction or conflict, when this diversity become symbiosis, we experience a release of energy and a feeling to be well. When it is balanced and healthy, the human evolution abounds in all the directions. It does not require of the individual that he banish of his "oneself" the attributes and behaviors that the culture could in a way stereotyped to define as being inappropriate to his sex. Conclusions.   If you read me, you surely seek not to remain with what does not go in your life. Why always all put in drawers? Couldn't we also live with our male side and our female side while letting circulate energies freely between the two? The butterfly uses its two wings simultaneously! Imagine if the two wings did not beat together... it could not fly, to be free; it would remain on the ground as when there was caterpillar and would remain very vulnerable. Thus, remove these cultural stereotypes imposed by our society to discover what you are really and finally to be well in your head and your body. Like an Indian: Wrap and mittens in black wool jersey. Boots out of leather. Printed pants out of cotton. Plucks pendentive. Gabrielle Loodts Marsh 2006. The man with the hat: boots out of black leather, sacking miniskirt, black Tee-shirt, waistcoat in young cow, hat 1900, fun bangle. Gabrielle Loodts 2005. Last statistics :   40 visits today   17 visits today   23 visits today   1872 visits by day max   131732 visits   514 Supporters  56  458   78 Messages   178 Drawings Gabrielle Loodts. The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden book and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further. Last member 20/01/2013 - 08h58 David Carlisle - Maclean2463 - Australia - Australia I am not a male... I am not a female... I am something that most will never understand. I am ANDROGYNE (50/50 male/female for the record) Longggg legs.... love skirts and heels and ...and.. and.. and now too old for public outings... not pretty any more... only gorgeous inside. xoxoxo [Members list] (free) Last member 22/05/2013 - 01h15 Fuzpvlwx Xandy - Sghxiwana - Mhnyftosd - Mhnyftosd purchase cialis on the internet qpbjx cheap auto insurance scrwzx free car insurance quotes 57298 degree programs etgd cialis ohe [Supporters List] (free) Last msg of golden book : Jean-Charles - Forcalquier - France - - added 29/07/2012. Bonjour à tous les hommes qui sont convaincu que le port de la jupe, bas collants, sous vêtements et même chaussures à talons ne devraient pas être uniquement l'apanage royal de la gente féminine. La plupart des femmes et jeunes filles veulent laisser de coté leur féminité en se grimant en mecs (jean blouson Caterpillar et casquette). Pourquoi nous les hommes ne ferions nous pas pareil ? Notre part naturelle de féminité (même le plus poilu des bucherons macho endurcis par le froids et l'ermitage recevant le besoin de se laver à chaque changement de saison) produit de la progestérone (hormone féminine). Mais comme il produit aussi de la testostérone en plus grande quantité ses caractères masculins sont prépondérants. Même si elle est infime, pourquoi ne nous autoriserait-elle pas à puiser dans la garde robe de notre sœur, amie, épouse ou de notre mère ? Nous vivons une époque ou le poil superflu féminin et masculin est pourchassé a coup de rasoir et d'épilation. L'homme moderne passe autant de temps en institut de beauté et bien être que ces dames. Le sous vêtement Marcel a fait un saut ...du kangourou ... au string ficelle..au jockstrap ! J'ai la cinquantaine et ayant porté depuis plusieurs années des bas de contention été comme hiver, jour et nuit, je m'étais résigné a me faire épiler les jambes pour limiter les échauffements. Je me contente aujourd'hui de porter des bas et collants féminins de 15 a 20 deniers jour et nuit pour maintenir une température constante sur mes jambes ! Le pire (ou le meilleur) est que je me suis non seulement habitué au port de ces bas, mais j'y ai pris goût jusqu'au point ou mon angiologue m'avait fortement conseillé de porter des chaussures compensées à talon haut afin que le mollet remonte et favorisant le retour veineux (circulation du sang des jambes vers le cœur). J'ai essayé les chaussures compensées en pharmacie mais 5cm ce n'était pas suffisant! Finalement je porte à la maison depuis plusieurs années des escarpins femme de 13cm de haut et la santé de mes jambes ne s'est jamais aussi bien portée! Mon épouse a accepté cette fatalité et j'ai l'impression de revivre car je ne souhaite à personne de porter en permanence des bas de contention le jour et de bas anti thrombose la nuit ! Un carcan !! Depuis que je porte ces attributs féminins, ma conception des choses a évoluée. Mon coté féminin s'est affirmé sans être efféminé mais j'éprouve de plus en plus le besoin d'aller plus loin dans le vestimentaire et de porter jupes, robes, body et tout autres habits interdits aux hommes ! Tout ce que je souhaite maintenant c'est que les mentalités changent, que les casseurs de travelo et de toutes personnes différentes d'eux ne soient plus qu'une espèce éteinte et enfin qu'un jour je puisse sortir et me montrer à mon aise en public. J'ai envie d'exprimer librement et ouvertement ma féminité ! Alors mesdames vous n'aurez plus le monopole de la féminité ! Voila je tire mon chapeau a ceux qui ont passé le pas ... de leur porte et ... je les envie !!! Bises à tous et bon courage. [Add a message] © All rights reserved -  MissingSign - Gabrielle Loodts  - 2004 - 2013 © No licence nor right is conferred in reference to the rights of intellectual ownership. 40 V.